Abina's 2012 top 5 resolutions: Enjoy everyday life!

The year 2011 is left behind and the ‘notorious’ year 2012 has finally arrived. There is no need to be in terror of this year, rather It is a great time to consider new and further plans to living life at your best. We want to start  you off with 5 of Abina’s year 2012 resolutions. Remember to take them at heart and enjoy your everyday life.

Real talk: African men can’t be faithful

 It started centuries ago: one man having 2 or more women. The modern societies seem to have brought an end to this lifestyle, whereby it seems impossible for men to have 2 or more women. Yet to some Africans, this lifestyle is at least one generation away. For example: Granddad who lived in Africa and who used to be married to grandmother, yet had children with other women while being in the marriage.’ Doesn’t this prove that this ‘unfaithful’ lifestyle is in the blood of our African men of this generation? Hasn’t this lifestyle manifested in our daily lives wherein African men cheat and the woman stick by, because they want to stay in a relationship? Some Abina readers had interesting answers.

Real talk: What type of man do you attract?

Women are attractive beings. They 
either attract good men or they attract the bad, it all depends on the attitude, appearance and looks. At least, that is how the saying goes. But is it really 
true? According to 75 percent of the 
men we interviewed, men can tell 
within the first 3 sights what kind of a woman is standing in front of them. 
They even claim that women are 
responsible for the men they attract.
 Furthermore, they claim that a woman can be categorized at first sight. Want to know the categories which were mentioned? It is time for an interesting conversation.  

Real talk Best-friends can’t date

We all have friendships. Whether it’s long-term or short-term, we all engage ourselves in friendships. Awkwardly, when there is just a friendship between the opposite sexes, some say that there will always be romantic feelings on some part. Do you think this statement is true or false? And do you think that romantic relationship, which can flow out of these friendships can work out? Do you think it's wise to make the flame a firework? I asked some readers their opinions about this matter. Well, here is what they say.

We last, because we make it work

Heartbreak is something that we all we deal with. Some of us experience a great success in our love relationships and some of us don’t. What we all have in common is that we all want our relationships to work and last. I interviewed young couples who have been together for years. We asked them this question: why are you still together and what made your relationship work?

Real Talk: Our intimacy and his best friend

We all have relationships with moments that are to be cherished. Some of these moments are cherished and kept between the two people in that relationship. Everybody has at least one of these moments. The peace that we have while keeping this moments to ourselves, breaks when we share them with another outside the relationship. In this case it’s the best friend. It’s his best-friend or her best-friend, it doesn’t matter. The best friend is a real issue, because she knows too much.

Real Talk: Who's Miss Independent?

We are most familiar with the title: Miss Independent. After Ne-yo’s smashing hit,named after Miss Independent, woman can’t seem to let that name rest. Miss Independent has become most popular and has been adding many women to her movement. But who is she? Is she that feminist or activist like Yaa asentwaa? Is she all that a man is looking for? Where is she from? And do the women who call themselves Miss Independent live up that name? Who is Miss Independent?

Real Talk: Marriage. Do we rush, or do we ride?

Me and my now called ex have been together for over 5 years. We are both Africans and have been raised within an African-Canadian culture. I can definitely say that I love him and I want to share my life with him. Some Africans, who reside in the western world, have this tradition that they don’t let their daughters move in with their man, until marriage. So also it is with my parents. However, I am 24 year old woman, ready to marry the man that I love. He tells me to wait. The problem is: I can’t so I have let our relationship go